Jan 9, 2021Member-onlySo, How Do We Solve Our Collective Problems?Hint: We Don’t. “We don’t so much solve our problems as we outgrow them. We add capacities and experiences that eventually make us bigger than the problems.” — C.G. Jung A long time ago an ex-partner of mine said in frustration “we don’t always have to be growing and changing!”…Psychology6 min read
Published in Human Parts·Jan 2, 2020Member-onlyFinding the Balance Between Surrender and Action‘Letting go’ does not mean ‘doing nothing’ — At dinner on New Year’s Eve, a small group of friends and I reflected on the past decade and discussed what we hoped to see come to fruition in 2020. It was less about resolutions (personally, I hate resolutions—they set us up to fail), and more about intentions or areas…Mindfulness6 min read
Jun 2, 2019Member-onlyCan There be Grief Without Suffering?Pain is Inevitable. Suffering is not. — I have a tendency of thinking about things in a very logical way, somewhat detached, rolling it around in my mind examining it from every angle. …Grief7 min read
Feb 22, 2019Member-onlyWithholding Affection as PunishmentHow the Silent Treatment Destroys Relationships — The feelings of anger, frustration, betrayal, and annoyance washed over me. Followed by an intense desire to push him away, throw up my hands, and say “fuck it and fuck you.” This is not a feeling most of us want to associate with our intimate partners. And yet, 3-months into…Relationships8 min read
Published in Human Parts·Nov 5, 2018Member-onlyYour Pain Is the Doorway to GrowthI’m a therapist who recently had one of the most challenging years of my life — it changed me for the better — In psychology and the world of self-betterment, we always talk about “resiliency” as a barometer for mental health. Resiliency has always been something I talked about with my own therapist and with my clients but, until a recent challenging experience in my own life, I didn’t truly understand it in…Self Improvement7 min read
Aug 20, 2018Are you Confusing Self Harm with Self Betterment?There’s a Difference Between Ego and Intuition. — Recently I’ve begun adding weight lifting into my workout routine. I’ve been a yogini and a lover of Pilates for many years, but being a woman means that as I get older my bones are slowly and inevitably turning to dust. Lifting weight can actually help strengthen them from within…Yoga5 min read
Aug 3, 2018Member-onlyAre you a Puppet on Your Emotional Strings?Breaking the Chains of our Unconscious Patterns — Cycles and patterns have been on my mind lately. Cycles of behavior, of thought, of emotions, the dances we do with ourselves and with others. The idea that unless we are intimately familiar with our inner selves we are destined to repeat the same cycles over and over again. …Relationships6 min read
Jul 17, 2018Member-onlyDo You Shut Down Instead of Speak Up?Why Expressing Your Emotions is Crucial for Self-Growth — In yoga asana (the physical practice of yoga), the pose begins when you want to leave it. It’s when we can notice that resistance (and sometimes muscle scorching discomfort), take an inhale, and then exhale more deeply into the pose that the real transformational work happens. …Mindfulness5 min read
Jul 7, 2018Member-onlyYou Need Therapy (yea, I said it)After a recent weekend in my hometown spending time with family and friends, I realized how many questions and conversations I’m having around the idea of therapy these days. People asking for very specific advice or telling me, in great detail, something they’re currently struggling with, people asking general questions…Relationships6 min read
Jun 11, 2018Member-onlyThe Most Critical Component of Self CareAnd, no, it’s not bubble baths or spa treatments. The older I get the more important the word “no” becomes to me. It’s not a word that has been widely used in my adult vocabulary, maybe not used much since I was a toddler actually (side note: my first words…Relationships6 min read
