Anger is a Motivator for Change Just Don’t get Stuck There.

Vanessa Bennett
3 min readJan 15, 2024

In psychology, we call anger a secondary emotion because generally, underneath anger is something else:

Hurt, rejection, sadness, fear, frustration, powerlessness.

Many of us not only feel anger first but also have a tendency to cling to it. Partly because anger is less vulnerable than sitting in hurt or rejection or, if you’re a man, because it’s more socially acceptable to express than any of the other emotions.

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Vanessa Bennett

Psychotherapist, Mindfulness + Codependency Coach. Cohost of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast. IG:vanessasbennett