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Are you Confusing Self Harm with Self Betterment?

There’s a Difference Between Ego and Intuition.

  • When you think of communicating to someone that they hurt your feelings does it make you feel like you want to crawl out of your skin? Good. Communicate how you feel and then sit with, notice, adjust and communicate how you feel again.
  • When you tell someone “no” and set a boundary for yourself do you feel guilty? Like you’ve let them down? Good. Say “no” again and then sit with, notice, adjust, and say “no” again.
  • When you do a certain move or pose in Pilates, Crossfit, at the gym, does your knee feel like it’s actually on fire? NOT good. Stop doing that. Start from the beginning of the setup, ease into the movement and notice the point where the pain begins. Pay attention to your alignment. Slow down. Breath. Back off. Potentially realize your body isn’t meant to do this movement and if that’s the case and you do it anyway it’s ego driven and self-harm.

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Psychotherapist, Mindfulness + Codependency Coach. Cohost of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast. IG:vanessasbennett

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Vanessa Bennett

Psychotherapist, Mindfulness + Codependency Coach. Cohost of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast. IG:vanessasbennett