Breaking Free From Old Patterns — From Self Abandonment to Inner Belonging

When did you last feel truly connected to yourself — not the version of you shaped by expectations, but the deeper, authentic you? Many of us move through life on autopilot, second-guessing our decisions, dwelling on mistakes, and wondering if we’re enough. These patterns aren’t random; they often stem from the silent agreements we made long ago to keep the peace, fit in, or avoid rejection.

Exploring the Roots of Self-Abandonment
Perhaps you grew up learning that your needs were “too much” or that it was safer to keep quiet than to risk rocking the boat. Over time, this conditioning turns into habits: people-pleasing, overworking to prove your worth, or staying in relationships long after they’ve run their course. These patterns may have once protected you, but now they keep you feeling stuck, depleted, or disconnected.

If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. So many of us long for change — a way to shed the self-doubt, reconnect with our intuition, and build lives rooted in authenticity. But how do we begin?

The Journey Back to Yourself
Reclaiming your sense of Self is both a gentle unfolding and a radical act. It starts with small moments of reflection: noticing where you hold back, where you self-silence, or where you feel like you’re giving more than you’re receiving. These moments invite the question: What would it feel like to belong to myself?

The path isn’t always easy, but it is transformative. When you begin to trust yourself again, you stop seeking external validation. You start setting boundaries that feel clear and kind. You stop carrying the weight of other people’s expectations, and you begin to feel the freedom of living for your own values.

Your Reflection for Today
Take a moment to pause and notice:

• Where in your life do you feel depleted or resentful?
• What patterns might you be repeating that no longer serve you?
• If you gave yourself permission to act in alignment with your needs, what might shift?

Journaling or even just reflecting on these questions can be the first step toward reclaiming your inner belonging. These reflections can be huge jump off points to changed behaviors.

Take the Next Step
If you find yourself ready for deeper work — ready to understand the origins of your patterns and begin transforming them — I would love for you to join me in Baja, Mexico, for mine and Dené Logan’s annual week-long immersive retreat: From Self-Abandonment to Inner Belonging.

This retreat is designed to help you:

• Explore the origins of limiting beliefs and conditioned habits.
• Build trust in yourself through therapeutic group work, somatic movement, and nature experiences.
• Create sustainable boundaries and learn to interrupt patterns that no longer serve you.

As you reflect on what’s holding you back, consider this retreat an invitation to reclaim your voice, your sense of belonging, and your trust in Self.

Ready for Transformation?
We’d be honored to support your journey. Use code MEDIUM300 for $300 off your spot in Baja, December 29–January 4. There are just three spots left — let’s begin 2025 with clarity, intention, and connection.